Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

What a leader looks for in a friend

DAILY BIBLE READING:

Job 34:1–36:33 
2 Corinthians 4:1-12 
Psalm 44:1-8 
Proverbs 22:10-12

TODAY'S BIBLE VERSE(S):

Proverbs 22:11 (NLT) "Whoever loves a pure heart and gracious speech will have the king as a friend."

REFLECTIONS ON TODAY'S BIBLE VERSE(S):

As Solomon wrote down the proverb that would become our Verse for the Day, he would have taken it very personal. The other proverbs were true and helpful but this one hit close to home. You see, Solomon was a king.

Proverbs 22:11 (NLT) "Whoever loves a pure heart and gracious speech will have the king as a friend."

As a king (or a leader of any type), Solomon knew of the intense strain that rested upon him almost constantly:

  • The pressures of decision-making knowing that people would be affected either positively or negatively by those choices.
  • The pressures that never stop. There was never a time when he was "off the clock." 
  • The pressures of being responsible for those in positions of authority under his own authority. Their competency (or lack therefore) reflects back on him and would require him to resolve the problem if they weren't doing their job well.
  • On and on we could could go about the pressures of leadership.
But, Solomon was addressing something very person in our Verse for Today. He knew that leadership can also be incredibly lonely.
  • The higher you climb, the more some people want to knock you down. It makes them feel powerful. So, you begin to question a little more frequently who you can trust.
  • The higher you climb, the more you are surrounded by folks who are ambitiously seeking their own interests and not the interests of the organization and the people within it. Therefore, they are incapable of being trusted or entrusted with authority.
  • The higher your climb, the greater the chance that you will have to correct someone or remove them from positions of authority for indiscretions or incompetencies. In my experience, they rarely take that well. At that point, anything you have shared with them in private becomes ammunition to use against you.
  • It has also been my experience that many who profess to be Jesus-followers readily embrace God's forgiveness of their own sins while harboring resentment and anger and unforgiveness for a leader and his (supposed) offenses against them (see Matthew 18:23-35). 
  • Again, I could go on and on regarding why leaders struggle to have friendships and know who they can trust.
Solomon would have felt this. He would have longed for friendships and relationships that he could trust. 

Well, who could he trust? As a king and leader, what kind of people would he have enjoyed being around him so that he could satisfy his heart's longing for relationship?

Proverbs 22:11 (NLT) "Whoever loves a pure heart and gracious speech will have the king as a friend."

He wanted people with "a pure heart." They weren't duplicitous. They wouldn't say one thing to him and then something quite different to folks out in the parking lot. They were people of integrity who he could trust because their heart and motives were pure.

He wanted people with "gracious speech." That means that they were known for being kind in what they said. Because leaders know that if you talk badly about someone else in the leader's presence, then you'll probably talk badly about the leader in someone else's presence.

So, if you're a leader, this verse provides the qualifications of people that you will want to surround yourself with.

If you aren't in a position of leadership and want to be a blessing to those who are, ask God to give you these qualities in abundance. Leaders are looking for people with pure hearts and gracious speech.

Monday, July 10, 2017

Enjoying a divine relationship

DAILY BIBLE READING:

1 Chronicles 9:1–10:14 
Acts 27:21-44 
Psalm 8:1-9 
Proverbs 18:23-24

BIBLE VERSE(S) FOR TODAY:

Proverbs 18:24 (CSB) "One with many friends may be harmed, but there is a friend who stays closer than a brother."


REFLECTIONS ON TODAY'S BIBLE VERSE(S):

Our Verse for Today was written in the Old Testament. King Solomon only knew tidbits about the coming Messiah.

He knew that the Messiah would sit on his father David's throne.

He knew that the kingdom would have no end.

But, he did not know his name would be Jesus.

He also did not realize that the Mighty Warrior would also be a dear friend "who stays closer than a brother."

So, Proverbs 8:24 was not initially intended to speak about Jesus. Solomon did not have Jesus in mind when he included this verse in the book written to his son for his instruction.

Yet, as New Testament saints, we realize that ALL of the Bible (properly understood) is about Jesus. If we look carefully enough we will see Jesus not only on the pages of the New Testament but all over the pages of the Old Testament (see John 5:39).

As we look at Proverbs 18:24, it could not be more clear that God had Jesus in mind when this verse was written.

Proverbs 18:24 (CSB) "One with many friends may be harmed, but there is a friend who stays closer than a brother."

Further, this reminds us of the New Testament truth - that God doesn't want us to go about doing religious things so much as He wants us to enter into relationship with Him so we can enjoy Him as He enjoys us.

It's all about relationship. And, if we are Jesus-followers, Jesus is our friend that "stays closer than a brother."

So, enjoy relationship with Jesus today. Speak with Him in prayer and listen to Him in His Word. And realize that obeying Him is essential to experiencing the joys of the relationship.

John 15:14 (CSB) "You are my friends if you do what I command you."

So, enjoy this relationship today. God is calling out to you to participate in the most loft of relationships that meets our deepest needs. And He's waiting on you. Will you enjoy Him today?